The failure

When I speak of what I do in life, I often hear this annoying little phrase : “tu en as de la chance”.

This is not too serious, neither particularly malicious, but infinitely awkward when you know how difficult it can be to take the decision one day to stand on its own feet and give her little comfort. Even crash.

It does not take much courage, in reality, people around me who are getting rather have a common quality : they have no fear of failure, or otherwise have managed to tame the idea.

And I realize that this is something you do not really teaches us home, I mean in France, it is not our culture. We tend to point the finger at those who plant, to make fun, and I feel that most people see something infinitely negative.

It's pretty rare to hear entrepreneurs talk about their failures, of their failed attempts, and the manner in which they are raised. While there's no such immediate success and flamboyant, nowhere, never . We must try, se planter, take note and start over.

It has often happened to me to have little crazy projects, which enthused me tremendously despite the mountain of obstacles to overcome to achieve them. An example stupid : when I decided to organize my wedding in the forest, without water or electricity, when I was talking about me I heard a lot of “you will not succeed forever” “but you have not thought about it ?” “it's impossible” “in your place I would not do that” and gnagnagna. It was not until I redoubled perseverance to face the increasingly negative opinions of others and finally, hear “it's great what a wonderful idea, what a success, you get lucky”. DE LA CHANCE.

Why are people so negative face other projects : Is it consolidates them in their own inaction ? Is their fear of failure frustrates them to the point of wanting to discourage those who dare ? Climb any somewhat daring project in France you will see, I have lots of friends entrepreneurs who will tell you in beautiful.

I do not know by what miracle I grew up wildly mocking me in the view of my surroundings. I've always been comfortable with the idea that we can not appreciate me and I have always made my head that despite the notice rang out from all sides. I never took a dud for a failure.

J’ai raté math sup ? I then rebounded to be accepted at the Ecole Boulle (after a serious period of questioning) où j’ai trouvé ma voie. Je ne me sentais pas à ma place à ce poste dont j’avais tant rêvé chez l’Oréal ? I resigned to venture into the intricacies of the web and ended up up my little case. I separated from my husband after 10 years together and only a small year of marriage ? I believe today that my separation is one of my greatest achievements, we managed to stay friends and meet us despite a difficult period that could have torn (and you can not imagine how many people have long disapproved our beautiful after our separation agreement).

Each of these be called failures were periods where I learned a lot about myself, others, what I wanted in life. And if I go more serene daily it is certainly because I'm not afraid to plant me, I know that it can happen, but in reality, I do not risk much.

The risk is much greater to wait until it goes alone, and that luck smiles at you as Gontran Happiness.

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153 "comments on"The failure

  1. 23 September 2015 at 14:40

    I totally agree with you! There are almost ten years I left France to live with my boyfriend 3 mois (plus 14 month Internet) in Australia. Some people around me were not very encouraging (indeed the very idea of ​​our relationship was not very popular with our fifteen years apart). well 10 years later we are still together, Married (and happy!) with of grumpy 4 years old. The same, I have the opportunity to work full time to my account to try to grow my business while my husband take care of our daughter. It's risky, this will be our one salary. But there are no free lunches, and if I do not try I'll never know if my dream can become a reality or not!

  2. 23 September 2015 at 14:43

    We are in a country where everyone has fear of failure and where everyone hates money (Finally, this is what everyone is trying to make believe). There is nothing wrong to crash or win or lose money. We are in an almost immobile society where everyone lets make other. Personally I applaud with both hands the people who make real choices and assume the.
    For my part I have not created, invented anything but I know that if I had had a bit of genius I'd fucked me to complete my project.
    After critics always fuse, I also think it is a way of people to reassure themselves from the comfort in a classic pattern. After to make them understand that this is not luck but working, well then good luck !
    Keep courage and enjoy the “chance” knowing reflect and take.

  3. 23 September 2015 at 14:43

    Je t’admire beaucoup, and other freelance bloggers, for having the courage ( not lucky) you get started, even if you planted and repeat. I am rather in reverse optical : afraid to leave my taf (“and if I found myself unemployed, homeless, to beg in the Metro…”), wedding fear (why then do we know that 1 about 3 fails, etc), etc
    When you say “at worst I will not risk much”, it still requires much self-confidence, I do not think I, because I find that if I just risk a lot and it slows me.

    • 23 September 2015 at 14:49

      Try something : takes a pencil and paper and in black and white the changes you could make and what are the concrete risks. You will see that they are not so huge ^^

      • 23 September 2015 at 19:03

        I think you take the “tu as de la chance” too literally. Pour moi, it is truly a compliment, because it reflects a rather admiring and envious glance. It is not at all synonymous with “you really have your ass edged noodles”, which would mean that ottoman, everything falls you on the corner of the nose without lifting a finger.
        It happened to me to tell me, about a graphic designer friend. I think he is lucky not to have pattern on the back, he is lucky to have schedules that veut..etc. But because I am also appreciative of his career. And I also know that his pro life is far from rosy.

        I totally agree with you on the French vision of failure, but you did not mentioned the financial risk in your Article. Because for someone living alone, who embarks on a freelance job or something where everything is to create, How does he manage to get by (rent, food) waiting to pay wages??? If you have any response fragments, I am all ears. But I totally understand the fear of being under bridges (it would be my one and only afraid elsewhere).

        • 24 September 2015 at 1:00

          In fact I'm not woke up one day deciding to launch me. It took me some time. Leaving my first job at L'oreal I went to a small agency where I live negotiated a 4 / 5th, I had a day (en plus du week end) to devote to my projects). Then in the following agency I was 3 / 5th. These two steps have allowed me to develop all this and also to trust me (yes it is not easy to believe in its projects). And then I had the opportunity to leave the last agency with a conventional break and I chose assedics offers for assistance in starting a business : you ride your box and you touch your allowance as you do not pay you salary. It allowed me to really start One Fine Day. After I know most courageous people who agreed to squat in a buddy and eating pasta for 2 years before succeeding really strong. It depends on you ;)

        • 24 September 2015 at 21:13

          Thank you for your answer! I understand better your career, and it seems more feasible to me, and more sense, to release the former smoothly job… Effectively, il and the solution “contractual termination” for the private, but unfortunately not for the public. (As against the squatting solution among friends falls a sacred courage and nerve to touch).
          After it is sure that when you believe in your dreams hard, one must be ready for anything, Of course, be a sacred confidence.

  4. 23 September 2015 at 14:44

    thank you for this post… simply thank you.

  5. Julie Mindjimba
    23 September 2015 at 14:50

    C all this is true

  6. Pichon maylis
    23 September 2015 at 14:51

    Cool to read you and congratulations for all :-)

  7. 23 September 2015 at 14:52

    Thank you for this article, it makes me think a lot without making head. It is true that we not learn to pick ourselves up but like you I've always ignored the eyes of people. In all my decisions, I take advice, but ultimately, I do as I want and it's true that people will quickly disapprove.
    Mistakes scare me, it happens me to do and I am notes, aware that I would not do 2 the same time, is so is pro life! at the beginning we operated it and then we learn…short, Because you have a lot to complete your projects and your life as you hear. Occasionally, I would like to have more courage again!
    big kisses

  8. 23 September 2015 at 14:52

    It's good these words written like this :)
    I think exactly the same thing … I am only part Mongolia “oh mais non, do not go alone” “what interest” …. I resign within days “why not stay warm” “Why tempt fate in a current context”

    j & rsquo; I want to answer : why not ?

    I agree with everything you say, and it is even more fascinating when you read the course Bill Gates or Steve Jobs who have been sowing with obstacles course and that their strength was in their rebound :)

    • 23 September 2015 at 15:09

      I believe there are only united states just another learning from failure at school and changes everything !

  9. 23 September 2015 at 14:52

    You are absolutely right !
    I started freelancing ago now 3 years old, it was not easy but today I am delighted ! It works great (I am textile designer and blogger). I like the independence and the feeling of freedom that ultimately much envy me, without daring to embark.
    There must be a little crazy !!

  10. 23 September 2015 at 14:56

    While I understand very well that you publish fewer characters before tickets, I am always excited when you decide to do so – and even more so when your experience joined mine. I did a business school and everything dropped three years later to set up my own business as a literary translator with zero degree in that area. It's been over 20 years that I live well, I love my job, and I regularly take me “tu as de la chance” a little sour people who are bored in their. Except that no, I was not lucky, I worked like crazy the first few years, genre 12 or 14h per day, 6 days per week, 51 weeks per year. Now it is quieter, but when you want me to be able to take long lunch breaks or afternoon in the week if it suits me, it fills me a little, and I struggled to keep from swinging: “And my overwhelming social contributions, my incomprehensible paperwork, my nonexistent unemployment benefits, my lousy health coverage, my future retirement laughable, you also want the?” :-D

    • 23 September 2015 at 15:08

      It's true that many people do not see the downside and whatever you quote at the end of your comment shows how poorly treated too independent in France :(

      • 3 October 2015 at 4:31

        All I've read is very fair, when it launches, we're working like crazy and it explodes, Finally, it is my case. Is made in errors. what others call errors. I would say experiments and adjustments. Step back and rotate, it's gymnastics daily ! hihi. I feel that if my path, I met envious, overwhelmingly, mes clients, my friends, are very pleased with the success of our mini mini tpe. Happiness that is shared and it delighted the greatest number. It is a bit like, it materialized fun. It feels good in the ambient pink gray. Bonne continuation Eleanor, I will regularly and always read with much pleasure.

  11. 23 September 2015 at 14:57

    Sincerely thank you ! It encourages me in my flight! Merci.

  12. Laura Mari
    23 September 2015 at 14:58

    Very nice item, downright inspiring! I'm kind of the same dynamic even if it was not always easy to get rid of the notice in the opinion of my close. I think that kind of talk gives me a little more strength!!

  13. Anne-Solange Skipper-Tardy
    23 September 2015 at 15:01

    They ! I have a book to offer you that you'll love (and that I love). I wondered who I was going to offer :D

  14. 23 September 2015 at 15:05

    We are in a country where one wishes at all costs “good luck” (review the definition of “courage”), and when success is the result of a one deserves hinged “yeah but it's a matter of luck”.
    I think you're persevering and deserving.

  15. Hélène Le Vêve
    23 September 2015 at 15:11

    An article falls perfectly for me <3 Merci <3

  16. Marine Gombault
    23 September 2015 at 15:15

    Super article, merci !

  17. 23 September 2015 at 15:16

    It reminded me of when I lived in Spain and I passed a lot of French holiday who told me that I had as much chance to live there. I told them that I had just made the decision to do so and that it was not that complicated.
    In fact I believe also that we put a lot of brakes in life by fear, while it is often enough to take a step to make them disappear
    I loved your article !


  18. 23 September 2015 at 15:17

    I totally agree with everything you write… Most people around me react the same way (“tu as de la chance…”, etc.) while no it is not luck but just a desire to live a life like me… Plant me even when I resigned for a super taf I dreamed for years and finally disappointed me. I have not been the end of my trial period and I decided to start as a freelancer… So yes it's less safe in the end but at least I'm doing what I've always wanted… And if I plant myself at least I will have tried ! And I will not regret !
    I think a lot of people are afraid and begin barriers… And try to project their fears on those who dare ^ _ ^

  19. Fanette Rotatinti
    23 September 2015 at 15:18

    A 21 years I was a student girl with a life like everyone, and one day I wanted to leave everything to go abroad, Where I lived 3 years whereby English has today secrets for me. And aujourd & rsquo; hui, I songwriter, this sentence : “You've got the chance to do it all’ I heard so much, and I think no one realizes how she makes you feel at ease and you also frustrates, because his choices have asked, and always ask, to take on oneself and to make sacrifices. Basically, thank you for your article, it did me good. :)

  20. 23 September 2015 at 15:22

    Most importantly, especially to have enough guts to determine a goal and achieve it. In this case in your case, It is not luck but rather merit and what I just saw on your website, de talent. Yes you have a lot of merit because went after what you wanted and it, few people give themselves the means, where the famous phrase ” tu en as de la chance”. As if you had been selected at random from the wheel “quelkarmavaisjefairechieraujourdhui”. Perhaps they should finish their sentence “Tu en as de la chance, I have never moved my ass” (Y)
    A little too down to earth can be, but luck does not exist, if the will !
    (This was not a rant) Ah ah

  21. 23 September 2015 at 15:23

    I completely agree with you, I think in France we cultivate this idea of ​​success, even pointing at and make fun of people who fail. We want to be perfect and succeed at any cost and immediately. After my BTS I have been accepted in any prosecution of studies to which I applied. It was the drama for me, incomprehension ! A first defeat 21 years old, it's too late. But I bounced, I started to work, I opened a blog and skills acquired in parallel. And today I do not regret my journey, I think it would not have been as rich if I had a lawsuit study.

  22. Edwige Carolina Robles
    23 September 2015 at 15:27

    Good trip for you ! And yes, Chess is also small victories … Xxx

  23. 23 September 2015 at 15:30

    it's been awhile since I had not leave but com Thanks for your words! :)
    <3 <3 <3

  24. 23 September 2015 at 15:33

    It feels good, merci…

  25. 23 September 2015 at 15:33

    The “tu as de la chance” may be also taken as “you have the chance to do something you love” and no “you were lucky to get there”, non ?
    What I find the most crazy in what you write is how people used to comment on the choice of life, professional and personal, of each other.
    Let each one do what he wants to do, at least he's trying and if you can not do it again and ben !
    But if it can be done with the encouragement of his entourage, rather than the “oh you will not succeed” c & rsquo; is better :-)

  26. 23 September 2015 at 15:34

    A very fair post. We will be much I think to testify. For I recognize myself in what you say. Choosing a non-compliant way to what we learned. I went there in Spain 8 years and stayed there for love. On me dit parfois, Quelle chance (but also your mouth or, lucky! when I talk climate). not lucky, non. I risked not finding work, I remade my friends, rebuilt a life, but also experienced hard times away from my family and it's not always easy being away.
    To assist me even more stain, (I had finally found serious work, for “all the life”), I have all laché with some savings in my pocket to mount accessories brand and deliver lectures next…What chance do the job there! What a chance to be their own boss. Oui…and no. It's not luck, sometimes I'm afraid of risk, Sometimes I tell myself that I live without a net, I am still at the stage or can screw up. And we must also listen to these people who tell you that you will not succeed, while they are complying with their lives and waiting all year holidays.
    This is just another concept that our life.

    Of poutous and thank you for this post!

  27. Ophelia Cuellar
    23 September 2015 at 15:35

    In this literature that is good! Merci!

  28. 23 September 2015 at 15:37

    Your ticket reminds me of a Ted talk I watched it a while ago already (and I can not find the link grrrr).
    Bref, the intervener French spoke of the difference between France and other countries, including the United States where she had lived. Over there she was building his resume very differently by. In the USA it marked both his “achievements” his “chess”. During his interviews we confirmed that his professional attempts, even those who had not accomplished was significant and revealing of person, his journey…
    It's still a cultural issue, you are right!
    At home I always saw my father change, experiment, launch, success but also fail… it has never prevented from continuing! I now thank for teaching me that…
    When I wanted to quit my job “comfortable” , moi aussi, I heard : “but you realize if you get plants?”. What I have always answered : “And so ?”.
    I do not know, there may be a folly or unconsciousness dose in me, but I do not see why I should be afraid!!!!! Life is too short and too much happiness!!!!

    Thank you for this nice ticket, very inspiring.

  29. 23 September 2015 at 15:43

    The last interview Café Fashion business already had a little playful, This article redoubled my joy :-)
    Thank you thank you to see that others think that embarking on his own is a nice adventure. Although I must admit, it is unfortunately quite complicated in France :-(
    I went to live in England six months ago to get into the chocolate factory. But what the hell was not heard from the people around me so many remarks ! Fortunately, my family supported me (or at least refrained from comments). I left a job in the business of insurance, for which I even took the trouble to do my makeup in the morning…
    6 months, I have a lovely little shop, with customers who become regular. Alors, I work 12 hours a day, a few hours from home too, but this pride when people taste the creations, buy my pretty boxes, it would make me move mountains.
    Thank you to articles like this, they restore fishing, show that they are more fulfilled those trying. :-)

  30. 23 September 2015 at 15:49

    I love your latest posts… more philosophical ! I launched into the great adventure of blog eshop and after studies in chemistry and leap into the void sometimes scares me ! Failure scares me… But your post puts into perspective and it feels good. Merci !!!

  31. Anne-Marie Nam
    23 September 2015 at 15:50

    That sobering ! ☺ thank you

  32. 23 September 2015 at 15:53

    Merci pour ce billet, all is said ! It gives me motivation to continue my projects, merci :)
    It is well known that there are those who do nothing that will never plant !

  33. 23 September 2015 at 15:54

    Whaouh! Thank you for that word rich in energy accuracy and sincerity, I'm your long blog, I live in Spain and I enjoy every time I read your items! A thousand thanks! Continue comme ca! Lu

  34. 23 September 2015 at 15:55

    A true and great thank you for this post. I wanted to do an article about and I'm happy to see I'm not the only one to see failure as a good thing, something that allows us to move forward. I will not forget to link to your article because it is really just.

  35. 23 September 2015 at 16:14

    Very nice article ….. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU again and it feels good to read it !

  36. Yvette Albertine
    23 September 2015 at 16:35


  37. 23 September 2015 at 16:45

    Completely agree with everything you just said. I left a job I did not like and made me sadly and comments I had were very negative (you LUCKY to have a job, CDI, you complain for nothing, you never pleased you with what you have), these remarks (that would have been really stopping me if my husband and my family had not supported me) came from colleagues, However, admit to being very unhappy but will do nothing to move. After reflection, I thought they had not appreciated that I put them face their own inertia and that I'll have to content myself to be unhappy. It is often said that in the US, if a homeless spend a wealthy person sees in a big car (simple example), he said “One day, I will be in its place”. En France, on se dit “One day, it will be in my place”. We do not like successful people, changing, who take charge, Rather we criticize success and change and complain about his current situation. Bp Even when I ended a relationship 8 years that no longer suited me for years…

    And yet, I am someone who is very afraid of change and do not really know where it goes in life but, honestly, compared to other, I feel like an adventurer !! Thank you for this article inspiring anyway.

  38. 23 September 2015 at 16:45

    Very good ticket!
    And yes, One must dare, Simply, launch, fail, recover, explore and be reactive. Basically, have niaque. That's what I try to convey to my daughters.

  39. 23 September 2015 at 16:53

    Merci pour cet article ! I totally agree with you, people are afraid of failure. When talking about their projects that come out of some standards, they are afraid, but only for them, they indulged us. That is why we must learn to listen and keep his own idea, try ! Après tout, there will be no regrets that I never give it a shot ;) And, we are so proud when finally, this is achieved !

  40. 23 September 2015 at 16:54


    I follow you in a submarine for a very long time. Never commented but this time I come out of the shadows to say Congratulations (with the capital B yes!)
    Congratulations to reach this state of mind, rather British indeed, to say shit to negative reviews and other Cassandra pro do with your personal life and what you see fit. Succeed and also!
    Probably a long work on you, many re-issues and maturity of age :)
    Hat and thank you, You are a fine example to follow for those like me, roads were chaotic and very difficult to assume!

  41. lepetdeprincesse
    23 September 2015 at 17:03

    that's what I try to teach my son, because as you say our society despises called “failure”

  42. Fantastic MademoiZelle So
    23 September 2015 at 17:08


  43. 23 September 2015 at 17:14

    Oh yeah :) I fully agree with this message ! And I admire your ability to make fun of the advice of others when something holds you in heart. It is easy then congratulations ! I think like you that in France we do not know really promote chess. Yet it is thanks to them that we learn more, including one learns to excel, to improve, innovate. I think this anti-failure mentality is already present in school, where there are still too stigmatized error. Things change slowly, but it takes time. Having spent some time in Anglo-Saxon countries and especially in educational institutions (High School English, Irish university, Canadian elementary schools and language school…), I realize we still have a long way to. I will always remember my (génialissime) French teacher of saying we often hypokhâgne, when nobody dared answer his question : “If you have the right answer, fine. And if you're wrong, As also best !” As a young teacher, this is the kind of working atmosphere that I try to create in my courses :)

  44. 23 September 2015 at 17:21

    Its a pleasure to read rant items like this, its reboost my moral ! To conclude, it can lift the middle finger to all those people yeah !

  45. 23 September 2015 at 17:30

    Just … thank you to recall, vraiment.
    We have one life, no room for regrets !!!

  46. 23 September 2015 at 18:03

    Hoooo OUIII!!! it's good to read it!
    I thought that being an entrepreneur was to be like my father: have a crazy charisma, Learn sell ice to an Eskimo, not be afraid of anything and overflowing with ambition… Quite the opposite of what I am…
    After years of galleys and rewarding experiences (or not), I could not wait for this damn lucky!
    I set up my studio, I make wedding dresses and… for the first time in my life, I feel in my place!
    Plagued by doubt, the challenged, the brain turbine 1000 in & rsquo; time, but I can tell, i'm a boss and luck has nothing to do!
    So, break the bank is not for now but with a little luck ;p (and much work) It will come!

  47. Gauthier Le Guen
    23 September 2015 at 18:32

    Well said :)

  48. 23 September 2015 at 18:48

    Very nice ticket ! Bravo and thank you !

  49. 23 September 2015 at 18:49

    Hello Eleanor,

    Ton post est super. Entrepreneur I know what can be such expérience.Comme you I quit a good job to get into my passion. 3years difficulties, senior, low but still great adventures and meetings, I have no regrets today despite the fact that I am still undergoing changes.
    This is quite surprising as you can tell, to see his surroundings react to this situation. To see some unhappy at what they do (for they say to you) and try to support them and make them understand that there are other possible ways.

    I admire in any case the fact that the word failure means nothing to you because in difficult times they come back to me in the mouth, Sadly. Today the voice of reason and the reason I resume the path of wage labor but I found what makes me vibrate and I do not intend to let go so far, it will just be different.

    Thank you for your sincerity.

  50. Anchor Phy
    23 September 2015 at 19:33

    “take a chance” English = “take the risk” in French…Indeed question of culture ;)

    • Feather fish
      23 September 2015 at 20:01

      It's so well seen…

    • 24 September 2015 at 16:27

      This is so that!!! Here in London you when you throw everyone encourages you!! While in Paris treated you crazy, dreamy… and then when you manage it says you're lucky :)) I did well to go in London!

  51. Lise Bancons Mailman
    23 September 2015 at 19:34

    It feels good, Eleanor Bravo, life is not always as in bisounours, but otherwise we would make good shit . Congratulations to highlight because yes we are human and we make mistakes and that makes us stronger!

  52. 23 September 2015 at 19:39

    Good evening and thank you for your blog, I read assiduously, it pleases me and makes me feel good
    Critics do by sheer jealousy….
    Criticism is easy art is difficult…
    Independence is the courage to have his freedom
    Many greetings
    Lau de Seen In Nice ( fb page blog on not knowing how to make a real site lol but stand by ;)

  53. 23 September 2015 at 19:59

    That's exactly right. Culture proposed by France (that I love, However), is often : You have an idea ? You want to do something ? You are-and, but especially on the podium at the end. The first test is to be winner. And yet. The day will include some that life is rather a spiral movement to the Harry Potter, which goes in all directions.. it will get better. On monte, is made flat, on se plante, we start. Oui, we start. We change the way we work and incredibly, moreover. (It's lived ^^ .) On avance, Sometimes anxiety screwed to the body, we doubt… but we move and we foolishly clings to his dreams to have the life you want. And it feels good… so good. Oh gossips are always on hand to launch some quips, but finally, by sorting, you realize that just leave them where they are. And they are not so numerous that it, moreover. When we have the base of the lovely family and friends with onions, all is well, ultimately. Thank you for this beautiful and wonderful evening ticket. I wish you the best for the coming months !

  54. Feather fish
    23 September 2015 at 20:03

    A nice note resonates loud on my side…

  55. 23 September 2015 at 21:03

    ALL speaks to me in this article ! I also regret that in France we do not teach us so much failure.

  56. 23 September 2015 at 21:20

    Thank you for this article which I would like bouncing adding that we live in an age that drives us to transcendence (on all levels) but has decided to exclude the notion of failure. Or at least to create a trauma around this point that I find consistent when it reflects a desire to learn and do better. On a pro perspective, it runs so fast and it's so hassle to find a job when you have a job, we want to keep. En fait, it really has any right to be wrong or fail and that is unfortunate because we live in this constant trauma and after years without attempting anything for fear of failure (linked to the fear of being replaced), we end up totally frustrated and depressed. It is quite sad that sort of coexistence between the fact that we have constantly something to prove and improve and the fact of not having a right to the minimum error. Bref !

    Anyway thank you for this refreshing Article :)

  57. 23 September 2015 at 21:25

    La chance, it causes is like happiness.
    Then, it is simply a way of presenting things. People will always look their darkest everyday than it really is and other rosier than reality.
    But after all, why not, since it feels good.

    At most, we are happy, no one will cause happiness around you.

    And those happy moments, as you say, are also punctuated by doubts, pain and questioned but released in grown.

    My husband lived bankruptcy, on a mis quasiment 10 years get by, financially, but it has a new company now and it has never worked as well.

    It feels good to read that because I'm in the midst of doubt at work, I am still an employee and my direction has changed. Depuis, it's a little war to work and it's hard to let go of the fleet.
    I have not yet found a solution but I know it's there, even if it is super hard, I know that everything will be alright.
    I fingertip touches the urge to take flight and it makes me smile in this difficult context.

    I trust me :-)

  58. 23 September 2015 at 21:35

    My god que tu as raison !!
    There is nothing worse than living with regrets.
    I had my business for 5 years old, the adventure is over because the project was no longer viable. After a small period of mourning, I had the good fortune to see all that this adventure taught me, and brought all the doors that opened later.
    I both agree that we do not talk enough about those experiences that might sometimes help others.
    Thank you for this beautiful testimony !!

  59. 23 September 2015 at 21:40

    Perfectly said, nothing to add! ^^

  60. 23 September 2015 at 22:37

    Grumble grumble that the French. Do not be the last straw that French ? ;)
    Well I say that to be an advocate of the park devil I love your post that encourages me to go ahead!

    Merci, merci!

  61. 23 September 2015 at 23:08

    Hi hi… That luck you smile !
    (but it is very cute small sourisses ;) )

  62. 23 September 2015 at 23:21

    That's so true, what is commonly called “chance” is often only the result of the will and work. Much of the work for a project to be successful is also often to ensure that this work does not see is that things seem small, Natural and cheerful, working as a violinist to look as natural as possible. Only by constantly repeating that reaches the right tone. I rapprocherai this use of the term “chance” thereof do “don” – ah what's – she is “gifted”. Often gifted to work, repeat, strive to achieve the expected result.

    It is sometimes difficult in France to feel supported when wearing a different project – until it is bearing fruit and we are told that at the “chance”, effectivement. Eleanor thank you for this consideration if relevant and daring !

  63. 23 September 2015 at 23:51

    Just thank you <3
    Pour cet article et puis aussi pour tant d'autres, I read for years now, He remotivent, that make you laugh, reflect, qui redonnent l'envie de faire ce qui nous plaît :)

  64. 24 September 2015 at 0:59

    “I do not know by what miracle I grew up wildly mocking me in the view of my surroundings. I've always been comfortable with the idea that we can not appreciate me and I have always made my head that despite the notice rang out from all sides. I never took a dud for failure.”

    This passage is just wonderful. You write so well, de plus ! I find you and I'm delighted ! :)

  65. 24 September 2015 at 1:41

    OMG You are so right ! What separation and remain friends, This is really very good

  66. A French beauty addict in Sydney
    24 September 2015 at 2:44

    Haha, that's exactly the phrase that I repeat some of my French friends when I tell them my life in Australia. After more than 6 years of expatriation in Anglophone countries, I do not think being able to return one day… unless people like you are emulated! Fingers crossed ;-)

  67. 24 September 2015 at 8:19

    you have to 100% reason! And God knows how much our French society is allergic to failure.
    In the US for example,, failure is part of the human adventure and therefore, people are more adventurous and take more risks (and more successful)

    bises de

  68. 24 September 2015 at 8:50

    Oh I know what you mean since I've lived. Rather not too bad indeed. Among others through my banker, who told me one day : you know that in the United States a business angel lends money only to contractors who planted 3 cans ? To them we can not succeed the first time and there is no shame in and plant a box does not mean we can not manage a company. The .in France would do well to take a leaf, people are often suspicious after failure. I do not care for but sometimes it can be painful. Merci pour ce billet.

  69. 24 September 2015 at 9:38

    A starboard!
    Many would like having you the opportunity to fail at math sup’ or resigning the position in which they do not feel well. Having the ability to do so is not evidence of an adventurer or entrepreneurial spirit, but privileges. You can afford your ambitions because you probably come from a rather wealthy background – or at least privileged -, good for you, but please, have the decency not to come tell that everything you have today, you got through your own will.

    • 24 September 2015 at 10:17

      I do not know where you stand seems that I come from a wealthy background as this is not the case. My parents are from working class and I was practically raised by a single mother (to whom my father poured a small alimony). I have lived 4 years with my grandparents my mother was unemployed, my grandfather artisan receipt of a pension following a heart attack and my grandmother took care of the house, we were 6 in here, and I lived in the same room as my mother and my sister, we did not have a round. Then we had an apartment for three of us and I shared a room with my sister. Then I was able to study because I was market, I was admitted to sup math lycée lakanal boarding because I had very good grades and I was able to study at the Ecole Boulle because it was a free school. I lived for 5 11m2 years with my boyfriend at the time and I did a lot of baby sitting to complete the scholarship.

      So I grew up in an environment not too rotten course, cultured and open-minded people, but not particularly well-off, I got a lot to work force.

      • 24 September 2015 at 11:54

        Plum, it's really easy to find the excuse of wealthy background, and I think often it's just the opposite,
        I think people that are nothing more parties to otherwise ease back to zero and start over, to settle for a lousy apartment and a pittance to achieve their dreams a little touch.
        short, I like to read the comments board ;-)

        • 25 September 2015 at 15:10

          Not necessarily see – you, Sophie, Sometimes the money tends to paralyze people. To be from scratch, today even though I am in a difficult situation , I have a hard time making a decision, for fear of losing my comfort precisely because I know where I came from. So I'm stuck in this depressing situation and when I read the post Eleonora …. bah I dream to plunge. the real question is- this as emphasized that this post’ -on has not really lose?

      • 28 September 2015 at 10:11

        I come from a middle worse than yours and I do not have a family and a selfish father,though ,I am based in the provincial department with a lot of unemployment.
        I moved to paris,I did not have a guarantor and waited 3 years for an apartment,when I was told that immigrants were priority on hlm ,it's totally true,I saw with my own eyes,My former neighbor went to see a social worker and she made it direct file,I went to see ,elle m’a dit texto”we can do anything for you apart to find a place in emergency accommodation”.
        In short the chance I had to have my apartment I owe to my home,car mon ex (far left) I had put on the street and you know a girl in the street regularly violated,the girls of the cities are regularly violated(rotating) and that no feminist were also present at trial,it normal not concern women milieu.Concernant their social circles I am young,thin and I like the number of women councilors I knew who were haughty with me and who never help me because with such physics is just go under the desk….here is the number of women who say that support feminist women'm saying while the woman is his best enemy and agree that treats them like whores,because it is a common practice in France: go under the desk ,there only to see our politicians it is just that,short I know where I come from ,I understand why our country of France find themselves bankrupt and all these flaws…..

        • 28 September 2015 at 16:00

          Indeed it is a different story, I'm sorry to hear that you had a difficult journey, I hope you go in you better now.

    • 24 September 2015 at 12:23

      Non, it has the means of its ambitions as it puts the courage and the will. This commentary is exactly what it denounces : lucky you then take advantage and say nothing, do not do anything else ? Stagnation in French… This has nothing to do with money but character.

      • 24 September 2015 at 16:35

        I can not anymore idiots!!! This is typically the kind of sanctimonious and terribly negative comments that annoy me too!!
        Bref, I in this case I do not know! In passing, I was in high school Marie Curie me, Perhaps it was crossed!
        Thank you again for your article, I really recognized (even if I do a job on me to get to take more distance from what people think, I'm hypersensitive and sometimes ca touch me against my will!).
        See you soon!

    • 24 September 2015 at 21:35

      Com It makes me laugh as it is absurd… no doubt many would take the opportunity to fail at math but especially those sups “a lot” would already have liked to have had the opportunity to have the faculties to go there! (ooh where I should have the opportunity to hypokhâgne me).

    • 15 October 2015 at 22:29

      I can not help but comment on stuff like reading…
      I started with my husband there 3 years my box without net.
      2 kids feeding, no other money coming, it was necessary that pays right away to eat.
      And guess what? Ca a marché, very quickly (au bout de 3 month we paid)
      In France everything is possible, you just have to pick things.
      So in fact everyone is not capable of being an entrepreneur, but when you have the slab, the true, it's OK and there are thousands of examples everywhere

  70. 24 September 2015 at 10:11


    I am your blog for some time but were afraid to post, but your last post challenged me immensely.
    I am at a crossroads in my life, where I plan to grow professionally and personally, but without knowing how and without really being on the plunge because it is easier to stay in his comfort zone as DARE. and being insecure.
    The fear of failure, It's exactly that, what you say, ambient mood. Few people around me understand my desire to do something else.
    So just, I wanted to say Thank you posted this and allow to see things from a different angle :) I think I'll even print, view and take my courage in both hands to precisely DARE and not fear failure or at least relativize ;)

  71. 24 September 2015 at 10:18

    thank you for your messages ! I have a super busy week and I did not have time to reply to everyone, but I've read all your comments and I am delighted to see that it gives courage if some desires to others ;)

  72. 24 September 2015 at 10:35

    a discourse that fills me with optimism and make me feel good. Because we often realize that others do not help us much in our lives, and some choice.

  73. 24 September 2015 at 10:44

    Amen !

  74. 24 September 2015 at 10:55

    thank you for this nice feedback; I am currently in a phase in my life where I decided to get into entrepreneurship, ile st true that it is still top secret, because talking about this choice confronts me only to discouragement of all kinds …. The acting out is not easy for me because I'm more influenced you probably by the Other, but I know in my heart that the desire will be stronger than anything. So thank you for your support , bonne journée

  75. 24 September 2015 at 11:07

    What a shock I'm a bit so the blog “your life” and I learn Thy Thy separation after marriage ! Candy !!

  76. 24 September 2015 at 11:07


    I do my stuff lousdé suddenly XD

  77. 24 September 2015 at 11:17

    I just tend to worry too much about what others think (and I am certainly not the only) but as the years pass the more I tell myself that indeed, what is this for? Why take the lead instead to live his life quietly.

    In terms of the so-called “chance”, I totally understand what you mean. Luck can not alone, the chance to causes and it takes hard work to achieve his ends.

    I think it's great that you talk about it on your blog, I think this article can be really helpful for many people. En tout cas, I enjoyed!

    Sybille ♥

    The new new girl

  78. 24 September 2015 at 11:26

    I think actually, it is more difficult for others not to understand that we can not accept to be happy with what we have. Oui, you had a situation obtained at will and work force, it could seem envious.. The others do not seem to understand that although it is not “unfortunate or unlucky”, we are not necessarily happy ! Oui, are always worse elsewhere : why settle for it ??
    I am one of these people.. of these people who call themselves “Yes I do.. my situation is not bad but is it really what I want ca ??” then necessarily, when taking the decision to change an uncertain future as the road seemed all mapped out, reproaches fuse.. These are choices to make complicated or it is often our loved, family and friends, which does not include, to whom he must constantly be justified, take without feeling guilty..
    Au final.. one ends by telling us that we are lucky to have what we have.. but it was thought, creee, input.. on a affronte nos inquietudes, our fears.. Bref, on a choisi ! it's so hard for some to understand !
    Live happily before being killed ! no matter how :)

  79. 24 September 2015 at 11:44

    Amen !

  80. 24 September 2015 at 12:02

    How very true Article… Il y a un an, I resigned from my first CDI after only a few months because I could not go. And even though I was relieved to have made this decision, I am very much wanted me, I experienced it as a personal failure (at the begining) putting myself a monstrous pressure. What reassured me, despite some negative comments heard from here and there, is that my relatives have made myself clear that this bad experience was not really a failure. And I am aware now : I found another job that I like and I do not regret the decision I took there 12 mois… especially as I know what I want, and what I do not want now :D

  81. 24 September 2015 at 12:03

    Marriage in the forest = forest in marriage
    Be (self!!) saying failures alleged failures =
    That luck you Sourisse = that luck smiles you

    Thank you for your testimony that touches me enormously. I myself am trying to find the courage to launch me … in the profession of blogs corrector proofreader (hence the suggestions above, I beg you not to misinterpret).

    Good luck to you


  82. 24 September 2015 at 12:13

    Oh yes, this famous luck and the French spirit… Moi, it wearies. Alors, j’ai mis 10 000km distance between my country and I ! You are very brave and thoughtful in your projects and Bravo do not be afraid to plant you ! A tip given to me and I will never forget : Once you've made a decision, she's the one, no regrets. And it works ! Thus marry for some time after divorce, no regrets, no failure, there are two different decisions. And here I do not comment on your situation but mine (after three years of marriage, after separation 5 years of marriage, I often wanted to send you an email but not dare). I think I will return to France to retire, I prefer to live in a positive company !!

  83. 24 September 2015 at 12:19

    Voilà, that is right for all those nasty remarks that we support every day !
    Well written , merci :-)

  84. 24 September 2015 at 13:58

    Merci pour cet article.

  85. 24 September 2015 at 13:58

    Inspiring article to launch!
    Then, I find it a pity that there is a bit too much “French Bashing” in the article and comments. I think you could benefit from aid that allowed you to throw you without taking too many financial risks – eg conventional rupture. You may also be able to continue to benefit from health coverage. I do not think it would have been possible for the US.
    So do not be too critical of our great country ;-)

    • 24 September 2015 at 16:47

      I talked more of a problem of mentality in general and of a structural problem ;)

  86. 24 September 2015 at 14:06

    Well said !

  87. 24 September 2015 at 14:32

    Thank you for this very nice article about me enormously. Having chosen to follow studies of art and design, go settle in London, then in Australia and wanting to go back to France after 7 years abroad, I feel like I have to fight against many negative opinions. I'm not sure that's only French, sometimes some people think this way protect us, others are no doubt envious. I think it is important to know to surround yourself with positive people and in the end it's so satisfying to realize his dreams! All the better if you make fun of the Other. De mon côté, it always saddens me and makes me doubt myself ; fortunately, I am tenacious!

  88. 24 September 2015 at 14:47

    Super article, and indeed like many reviews say you had the courage not the chance to throw you, and I really congratulate you !
    I tell myself that maybe people who tell you you “de la chance” it is surely because they envy you, or are impressed. Somewhere I includes, but it's been a while since I heard a discourse increasingly present (I particularly found in friends and I specify is not yours here huh ! ;) ) who is : Entrepreneurship is great one is independent, I earn money for myself, I know who I work for …. I totally understand this philosophy and the importance of working for themselves etc. …
    But the ubiquity of this discourse (that is not yours I repeat myself ;)) tends to annoy me because no it is not ideal for everyone. First, because it is the fruit of a tremendous work (the people I know who have their small businesses have more life for some years now … ) it's really not easy I think it must be a work above all passion :).
    And the second reason is that personally worked “pour moi” this is not my ideal, I prefer to feel “helpful” in society, good after one does not preclude the other (like you who has the ability to launch exciting discussions on this blog) !!! But it is true that sometimes for some work I have trouble understanding it raises enthusiasm among stakeholders (eg a commercial work) , although I never allow myself to tell them of my misunderstanding.

    Finally everyone finds happiness here is to go to work there or he wants, and I confess that it is not my desire. I just wanted to qualify this little refrain that I hear regularly “Entrepreneurship is fantastic ”

    Good suddenly I'm a little off topic, but here I wanted to put my little grain of salt :)

  89. 24 September 2015 at 14:49

    Thank you for this post I i took great pleasure in reading!

    Personally I hear quite a few “tu as de la chance”. Par contre, I am the first to brag that I”am very lucky – and that chance, I won it and caused. By having the courage to leave everything all over again, many times; changing country, careers, friendly environment, seizing an unexpected opportunity without thinking three weeks…

    Alors oui, I readily admit, I have a great chance to get up in the morning being happy to leave the office, to do a job that I love hard, for a talented boss who shows me the recognition in word and privileges in cash, to make a living doing comfortably, to live in a country where life is felt quailité daily, to have a rich and stimulating friendship… I am grateful, I enjoy it fully – but I also know what I had to do to get there. Ma chance, I caused, and seized him round the waist.

  90. 24 September 2015 at 15:26

    it's true it all, the fear of failure, from ridiculous, ridicule not you are told…
    I have left France for studies in Amsterdam but I came back because people are pessimistic and all are done to you ds roadblocks ( Finally, it is my impression)
    'oh little lady is not even worth thinking about + haughty look ‘
    read this post gives me courage, it's been months that I dream to get you to wear one of my jewelry to one of your looks.
    Then I will mail an email at worst you will say no and the earth will continue to rotate ! ;-)

  91. 24 September 2015 at 15:44

    Thank you thank you for this post, which is good for the head and the heart ! This proves that with courage and envy can get to do a lot of things.
    Bravo for your journey <3 ! It makes you want to do the same things, I often ask myself to reduce my work time to devote myself to my passion, read you give me a little more courage to do it.

  92. 24 September 2015 at 16:21

    The failure, is when you stop trying. I do not remember where I read that, but it had affected me, and I have made my motto. Aground, it puts a blow to morale, but either I start, either I go on something else. It's not luck, it is not courage, it's more of the determination.

    If one does not cause the destiny, it will not come pick us alone as a great !

  93. 24 September 2015 at 16:34

    I have long underwater (2008 au moins) and this is the first time I dare to comment. I really like the turn that took your blog, I learn things (including the pill) etet it leads me to ask myself many questions.

    I understand that it is annoying when you hear about “chance”, but as my mother would say, everyone is lucky, the difference is that everyone does not understand the !

    I do not think I have fear of failure, when I decided to something I put myself in bulldozer mode until achieve the goal, That said, even when there is some luck in my education eg. I had the chance to meet people who made me realize that I wanted to have a creative job (I wanted to do medicine, nice but not too the same delusion anyway), I was lucky to have the phone the deputy director of boulle (Yes me too ;) ) me indicates the contest to go dark to go in the desired sector, I was lucky to meet the right person to guide me in my work, all that does not mean I have not worked this chance to grow. And this is the work behind that is decisive in the end we agree.

    That's why when I do not know who speaks privilege I'm not too bothered and disturbed by it. I m & rsquo; says, my family does not run at all on gold and for some years my mother, my sister and I lived in the same room as, but we had the privilege of having a mother with a good cultural background in the classical sense and who has given us great encouragement that our curiosity and independence by having full confidence in the way we choose (I learned recently that inwardly she had made the serious face knowing that I wanted to do bacon) I also have the privilege of having the brain that matches my ambitions (I wanted to do quantum physics would have been a different story) all that to say that everyone does not necessarily have the cultural and financial background (you still worked in a lot of boxes to put aside before you start) or timeliness (I think of a girl I knew who the primary 23years now no diplomas, single mother of two children and cashier, it is not day to day but not far either)

    On failure, I felt more when teachers try to make us understand that we will not get anywhere (because it draws the back of the class, although having more than adequate notes) there is my philosophy teacher who was top : she said that if not you got there it was not because we were spoiled but because it's hard !

    In short large pad, I hope I clearly expressed (and forgiveness for the mistakes likely, not having to make memories made me more lax on my grammar D: )

  94. 24 September 2015 at 17:01

    I agree with your post, and thank you very much for sharing this experience. I am married to 22 years and started my box with my husband in stride. Our first opponents were our relatives, who were afraid for us. Today it's 6 years old, it's not easy every day but we are very proud of what we built.
    Pour moi, the only question to ask is “how am I willing to lose ?”. Once this fear faced and outdated, there is more to darken.
    Et effectivement, nothing is a matter of chance (I would even say that it is rather a sequence of galleys for most entrepreneurs). That's a lot of work, and many concessions.

  95. 24 September 2015 at 17:26

    What a nice ticket, there is nothing to add! ;)

  96. 24 September 2015 at 18:13

    This is a great article and I agree with everything you say!
    I just found your blog and I love!

  97. Juliane Costs
    24 September 2015 at 19:19

    Bravo and thank you !

  98. 24 September 2015 at 19:23

    “T’en as de la chance” it is also what we said to my boyfriend who is independent and has a pretty neat job (il est motion designer freelance, and a section in an issue Arte)
    Except that I do not think it is really lucky, it takes balls to get started as a freelancer, talent to be recognized, and a lot of self-discipline to set schedules and putting work before the rest.
    Personally, I find my employed life much more cushy : a salary every time, when my child benefit from CDD ends, of not delusional schedules, a workplace and colleagues… it's still easy.

    My father, who comes from a very humble background, is also head of a small business, and his work is often passed before his family. I have not seen a lot during my childhood because he really was working all the time.

    Du coup, “de la chance” ? Mmm I'm not so sure…

  99. 24 September 2015 at 19:25

    As I like to read this kind of stuff ! It is true that a person be commended for trying something, preferred point failure. And if it succeeded, is that she is lucky (for having money, to be well born, or any short luck). Pardon, I repeat like you ! Instead mope in poor lives making bitter, people should rather question how to have a life that suits them better and provide the means to get there. With the snares on the way definitely, but at least try. Because it is obvious : nothing ventured, nothing gained !

  100. 24 September 2015 at 21:06

    Super article, I wandered the web in search of inspiration and I found what I wanted, merci ;)

  101. 24 September 2015 at 22:07

    Whether your article is good, like other things you say and in particular I remember a sentence in a video that looked about right because I can not remember word for word “The favorite question is HR : or you see yourself in 10 years old?” Your answer “You do not know and that is the best answer because it opens up the field of possibilities”.
    I'm currently still in my comfort zone with a job that does not correspond with my studies or what I imagined even please me, and when I find myself dreaming and hope other things and that fear takes me, I think of this phrase that you say and told me that one day I too will follow those urges “inappropriate” to others, thank you so much for all these refreshing words, in this article, and many others.
    Change of subject : I was hoping to come to Andy festival but can not due to lack of work on Saturday, so for the next it's not too difficult to do on a Sunday thinking about it, otherwise I will continue to read and you will live through the photos =)

  102. 24 September 2015 at 22:44

    I never comment on this blog that I love, but frankly it post resonates. thank you for your sincerity, and thank you for this notice bcp need to hear. Quite agree with you typically French. The critical spirit is good, but the “hating” (“haters gonna hate”) Ambient became stuffing. Few French have the balls to move in and out of a comfortable system, and unfortunately there is a lot of innovation barrier (especially financial). I really think that France is losing fine talents and maintains a powerful elite with this culture. Bravo everything you built, and if the people do not recognize your merit is that he is jealous or ignorant.

  103. 24 September 2015 at 23:13

    1000 both yes to this article!
    Je change, step by step, since a few months. I've always been a freaked eternal judgment of others, afraid that people do not find me, incompetent, etc, but I get to fuck me (especially in the end, it's a bit all in my head: I'm imagining things that do not exist in fact). Now I'm doing projects, I assume the, I show (style start my blog, share my photos, the music I make it all), and I am proud. And failure is not a bad thing: he must succeed to get up and leave for something better.
    Thank you for this article that is good to read <3

  104. 25 September 2015 at 9:31

    Super article, so true. A small instep in our buttocks. Because even though I agree with you, I think one of the first lucky… Perhaps we should see this as a mark of admiration as “la chance, she had the courage to…” And finally the lucky word is not used in the right context.
    Bravo, continue.

  105. 25 September 2015 at 11:27

    Thank you for your article!
    I really appreciate the way you see things and I hope to one day have as much courage as you to take my hand…
    The idea to undertake its way in recent months and your words help me to move forward and tell me that it is possible.
    bon we!

  106. 25 September 2015 at 11:34

    Thank you for this post that resonates very strong in me.

    Today 46 years old, I never dared to change lanes after 1 first attempt fails. The only success I can boast to me is my little, arrived belatedly after several years of treatment. And good French, I tell myself that it's just lucky.
    I still do not know if I now dare to question myself as benefits in case of failure are even more important but take courses like yours (Yes, the success it intimidates) give me bananas, Once I overcame my first feeling of jealousy.

    So Congratulations and I wish you to continue to plot your route with sensitivity and intelligence.

  107. 25 September 2015 at 11:36

    I agree with you on learning from failure, but I think (as I read in other reviews), it does not take the “tu en as de la chance” as a way to denigrate your efforts, but rather as a mark of admiration and envy your situation facing, “what a joy to be able to do a job that you're passionate about”.
    Everyone has indeed not the courage or the opportunity to engage in something unknown, and I think it's pretty neat to remember that, oui, on a de la chance. Personally, This is one of my mantras, to avoid complain too much or lose sight of what's important. Even if I got what I have to force the wrist, I find that I am lucky to love my job, I'm lucky to have the means to live in Paris, I'm lucky to be well surrounded, I'm lucky to live in a country and at a time when I'm the only one to decide what is good for me.
    Bref, oui, I think you're lucky :)

  108. 25 September 2015 at 12:29

    Thank you for your article, which really made me think and wonder about the notions of failure and luck.
    Pour moi, failure does not scare me in itself. This happens to everyone to be wrong, it's human :-) But against, depending on project size, it can affect our lives more or less important. I think it is important to ask about our ability to bounce back and take the consequences, if ever our project fails. So, what is certain it is impossible to anticipate everything, but at least identify risks that one takes. Occasionally, it is not necessarily easy to see. And that's where, I think that our loved ones can help us. Pour ma part, I use their negative reaction, to discuss and really know why they say it. Occasionally, their thinking is not really founded and is especially of concern (which is normal to the bottom, would I not react in the same way, if for example, one day my sister told me she wants everything behind for a crazy project?). Other times, what are basic negative reactions, with no basis behind, I spend there, it has no interest to talk. More, sometimes, my relatives bring relevant issues to which I had not necessarily thought. Swapping, it allows me to ripen my project. Maybe at the end, they do not necessarily approve of my choices, but they will see that I have thought. Pour ma part, the fact to reassure my family and they understand why I want to get into a project, is an important factor for success. Put the odds on my side… Tiens, that's the word luck, pointing the tip of his nose ;-) Chance… I understand what you mean, they told me when I found my first job 2 weeks after graduating. I feel like you, I worked hard to get to get the job. But there are other times, I worked as hard, I have not arrived and stayed long months unemployed. What makes the difference? Pour moi, there are, inter alia, a notion of opportunity and it is sometimes, what people mean when they say you are lucky. You should know see and seize, not always clear…, but I think it is a significant factor in the success.
    Voilà, I hope my comments are fairly clear, it is not necessarily easy to put into words what one has in mind. ^^

  109. The Mat
    25 September 2015 at 20:50

    Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity :)

  110. 26 September 2015 at 19:01

    Merci pour ton témoignage, who reminded me of this article Anne-Solange, an opposite party reflection “then you really have a thee not possible bad luck” =>

  111. 27 September 2015 at 10:00

    I find myself totally in your text. I have a little less bottles than you and I especially do not have the ability to ignore the advice of my family but I also have this need to always test my limits. Whether it's on my personal or professional life, I need to understand or I'll even if AC goes through a failure. When I announced my separation after 6 years of love, my relatives were mad, yet I knew it was the best thing that could happen to me. When I announced that I was leaving the world of fashion when I had just finished my studies, I knew it was the right thing to do. Failures, once recognized, its engines to continue. Whenever I failed somewhere I wonder if it was me who was scared or if the situation was not following me and I found I just move on or else I start. Bel article !

  112. 27 September 2015 at 10:34

    I am young entrepreneur and I hear all the time: “tu en as de la chance, patati Patata …………….”!
    But thin, I was given the means! More…people are afraid!
    We learn from our failures anyway as you so well elsewhere.
    PS: I slide the link of your article in one of my posts on my launch activity. I found myself really.
    Good day to you! ;)

  113. 27 September 2015 at 13:11

    The important thing is to have no regret… Luck is often a result of hard work, seizures opportunities, & d’ failures that enable progress in its projects.
    My husband did not dare get his business, he did not like his job… I told him: “Now that's enough”, an opportunity presented itself to him, the talent he had. He had to run despite his fears. I think today, he has no regrets… But he had doubts, worries, constraints that have dam to its business success and the launch of its activity. it was not easy. I helped as I could, but the artist he is.

  114. 27 September 2015 at 14:48

    It is so true what you say!!!
    With my girl friends, it is all a little “[object Window]” (difficult to assume, it also), galley financially but it has rhythm that suits us and we are happy …. there are plenty of people who do not understand, who tell us to seek “a real” work … in the long run, we stopped to justify! (I think it is a waste!) We are interested in other, those who are not in judgment :)

  115. 28 September 2015 at 16:07

    A very nice post that gives a little balm to the heart ♥
    It is true that in France, there is a tendency to mock failures as encouraging successes. It's pretty weird…
    I wish you a good continuation – you seem to be on an owl launched –

  116. Maria
    29 September 2015 at 19:27

    <3 !

  117. Vincent Follézou
    29 September 2015 at 21:57

    this sentence deserves a t-shirt

  118. Geraldine Leroye
    30 September 2015 at 8:34

    YES ! This article. *clap clap*

  119. 2 October 2015 at 18:59

    Simplement : I like this article =)

  120. 5 October 2015 at 20:30

    I totally understand what you say, but I do not believe people who tell us that we have the “chance”, do not put all “la chance” in one basket !
    Some, some imagine that it is indeed question of good fortune, but I just think most of the others say “la chance”, it is to dare to succeed, to believe in yourself, in your dreams, in skills, to have confidence in itself despite the many obstacles, The critics, refusals, overcome his impatience to know, etc…
    Alors oui, somehow, there is small chance pinch of not knowing never give up and to believe again and stronger..

  121. 5 October 2015 at 20:47

    Well I merdouille my comment, suddenly bim, he left in cyber space ;) (or else the bush 500 times :D)
    No but you know when people talk about “chance”, it is mainly because they would dare, but fear…I do not think they s’ imagine that you're falling all cooked in its beak.. !
    And, I hate the term “failure”, it is so demeaning fucking !!! Life is made only of experiences, not a series of successes or failures : when we learned to walk after multe plantades, bleus, time, we said we were not the branques ;)
    Ps : moreover in Belgium or Germany, I do not know anymore, when you pass an interview for a job, they are as interested in your success as your “chess”… :)

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  124. 21 October 2015 at 17:06

    Just follow his intuition. Always.
    Happiness is nestled somewhere in there and boundless energy also.

  125. 24 October 2015 at 21:11

    I immediately thought to your article, reading thereof!

    • 26 October 2015 at 12:28

      Ah yes I had seen videos of the tests on children it was cute ^^

  126. 6 November 2015 at 20:33

    “the fall is not a failure. The failure is to stay where it fell”
    I dont know better than to say Socrates Msieur
    Thank you for this beautiful article that makes us feel less alone(e)s… we, illuminated !

  127. 13 November 2015 at 9:01

    Well said, good practice will now be more difficult to apply to me ^^ ! Thank you for your thoughts that are always exciting and echo my questions of the moment.

  128. 8 January 2016 at 19:33

    Simplement merci ! :)

  129. 6 May 2016 at 3:02

    I am an avid reader and admirer of your blog :) Bravo pour cet article, that damn gave me a kick in the behind ! CA re - motivated read articles of this type, It feels less lonely and it is warm in the heart to say that you can get there, whatever encountered failures. Thanks for your words, Thanks for your articles bright and happy, Thank you for being honest !

  130. 20 October 2016 at 14:34

    Merci pour cet article tellement vrai !! En France nous sommes vraimentformatés”, jaloux de tout et souvent pessimiste. J’avoue qu’il m’arrive de l’être parfois, c’est dans notre culture : / Mon véritable échec, celui que tout le monde passait un malin plaisir a me le rappeler a été mon permis. Après 6 passages ratés, c’était devenu un véritable poids pour moi, je me trouvais tellement nulle par rapport aux autres. Je l’ai obtenu il y a un mois, what a relief, what happiness ! Et bien même après l’avoir obtenu, certains se permettaient des réflexions blessantesAh ben avec tant de fois loupées, heureusement que tu l’as eu !” “On en rigolera encore des années…”. Quand j’y réfléchis je me disben en fait c’était juste ça le permis, pourquoi m’en être fait une montagne ??!!”. Je pense que c’était lié aux remarques désobligeantes des autres en fait ! Aujourd’hui je n’ai plus honte de le dire, de mentir sur mon nombre de passages, finalement cela m’a permis de faire beaucoup de marche à pieds et de connaître les quartiers de ma ville sur le bouts des doigts XD. N’importe ce que l’on fera, il y a aura toujours des gens pour soit nous enfoncer, soit nous envier !!

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